Just Genius!!! – Myers Briggs Personality Scale
This is really good! it’s important in being able to get along with each other that we can make room for differences! This is something Ive intuitively known from a young age, and yet I haven’t always had the social or emotional skills to put this into action successfully.
Often when we’re younger we mirror back to the people in our family, the unclaimed parts of themselves. If others mirror our strengths and weaknesses in a healthy and nurturing environment, then we learn reciprocity, and we also learn more about ourselves at the same time.
If we mirror back to people and they don’t like it, or think we have a problem for not seeing it their way, but rather as we see it, then we may be labelled as a ‘problem’. It’s important to factor in accommodation here as well – of course children won’t be able to know the plans and responsibilities of a given day or situation, but give them a chance and they may surprise you with their input.
When relating to others, It’s often the shadow parts of ourselves that we often react to in others, because it’s the part we don’t want to acknowledge in ourselves. I think we all have things we’re good and not so good at, so it’s just about learning to be observant and not judgmental, and practicing good communication skills and boundary setting, so that we can stay healthy in the exchanges we have with another person. This doesn’t mean modifying the self so much that we’re no longer ourselves, it’s about reciprocity and respect.
When we’re teenagers we often love deeply, and we’re passionate about a lot! add to this the huge physiological changes that are happening at this time, we really want our family to hear us, see us, and relate to us in the ways that we relate to others most naturally. This is sometimes a learned skill for adults as well. Teenagers that ‘push’ boundaries of communication, are often just wanting to be heard and affirmed as themselves by the main people in their life.
Affirmation by loved ones is an important part of psychological health. After all, the world hasn’t opened up for teenagers in terms of work, career, income, travel, and independent decision making etc, and they’re much more likely to depend on how others view them, than their own views of the world. We also can’t expect them to have the wealth of experience about the world that is gained as we age and mature.
Additionally, with the fast culture of today’s world it’s harder than in previous generations for teenagers to know what’s expected of them, and add to this to the social media world of today, fast unhealthy processed foods, sugar, and many other things, the nervous system and brain can have issues with good regulation, and this can be daunting. If we put down our teenagers for the world they live in and experience we’re doing them a disservice; better to listen only to allow their expression, and to offer our wisdom where we can.
This video about the Jungian personality types teaches us about differences. Taking care of ones our own mindset and respecting others is a part of keeping in good health.
Myers Briggs Personality Scale